When someone ruins your Holiday!

Do you remember when people were nice around the Holiday Season? It’s a new era we live in! Today’s world has many different personalities to interact with during Christmas. The shopping trips, the grocery store, you name it and you’re likely to deal with someone who wants to ruin your day, and perhaps your Holiday!

I will share with you my suggestions to manage difficult personalities when you want to have a peaceful Holiday Season.

TIP #1 – decrease the interaction. Whether it is a fellow shopper in a store, a Cashier, or another Driver on the road, if the person is showing signs of hostility towards you, then decrease the interaction. Maybe it’s a family member that you cannot stand but have to sit beside at the family gathering. How do you get out of that situation? Find a smoker and go outside with them. Better yet, pick up your plate and sit somewhere else. Is that too obvious? Well, does the other person care about your feelings? Probably not. And that brings me to my next tip.

TIP #2 – if they don’t care, then you don’t care. I know that sounds kind of uncaring, I get it. Think of it like this… let’s use the irritating family member scenario here. If you have someone in your family that enjoys upsetting or insulting you, or getting payback because you upset them 20 years ago, more than likely they don’t care about you. At least not your feelings. Once you realize the person can’t stand you, and you know what the score is, then free yourself from caring. Just because it’s family does not mean it’s forever.

TIP #3 – just say no. The word “No” is also a sentence. It does not require an explanation. As a matter of fact, you don’t have to explain your choices to anyone. And when it comes to that special person sitting beside you at the family dinner that wants to poke you and upset you, well you can say no to that. You can move your chair. You can leave if you want. The point is you have choices. It’s your choice who to interact with. You do not have to suffer unwanted company.

Sometimes the best company to keep is with yourself. You can treat yourself well and have a good meal. There’s nothing wrong with that! And if it helps you maintain your sense of peace during the Holiday Season, then enjoy that special dinner with yourself. Sometimes saying no to being around unkind people is the most kind thing you can do for you. If you were raised to feel selfish if you said no, then take small steps to carve out time for you. Do it for you and enjoy your own company.

Thank you for reading my blog!