Today’s topic is the very strange phrase: “no one will ever love you”. Have you ever heard this before? It is one of the most unkind and untrue things to say to anyone of any age. I wonder what possesses a person to declare such a negative statement over someone’s life. Here are my thoughts on the matter.
Whether you are young and just starting out in life or perhaps you have lived a long and full life, you may have heard this hateful phrase. Let’s breakdown the backstory of using words to harm another. When someone makes an “absolute” statement towards you that is negative, they are trying to control you. The intent is to direct you in order to create a specific outcome. This is programming. If you hear something long enough, you are likely going to repeat it in your own mind and eventually believe it.
Why would anyone push someone else into a pit of despair. It’s all about control. If the person who wants to direct you to believe negative things about yourself gets a foot in the door of your mind, then they have an opportunity to control you. If they achieve any success in doing this, it will escalate further and pick up momentum. Many people go through this. But do they get free from it and reclaim their life? What if it’s gone on for years.
The abusive person tries to create doubt in your mind so you question your abilities to choose your direction. Maybe they have convinced you that only they love you or only they “tolerate” you. This is a control tactic which can lead you to seek their approval, and hope they solve the problem. Here’s where it gets interesting! A problem cannot be solved by the person who created it or introduced it into your life. Finding yourself on the hamster wheel running in circles as time passes by, you look up and see years are gone. Others will question your decisions not understanding that you have become trapped in something so deep you no longer see a way out.
But there is a way out. You have to claim authority over your own life. An emotionally abusive person cannot be the solution. If they created the problem, they will NOT fix it. They look for opportunities to further control and abuse you. They will say or do whatever it takes to assert control. You must actually be the one to take control over your own mind and thoughts. The earlier you recognize what’s really going on, the greater chance there is to get free. The more years you endure the abuse, the harder it is to see a way out. Don’t be scared to reclaim your mind. Combat the false statements with true statements. Tell yourself the truth: “God Loves me.”
Thank you for reading my article. These are my thoughts and opinions. I am not a mental health professional so please seek guidance and help from a professional as needed. If ever you are in danger, please seek help from the proper authorities in your area. God Bless You and remember God does love you!
Sarah this is all so very true. It took years for me to learn to love me and rise above the lies. My worth isn’t others opinions and never will be again.
Amen! Sometimes the “loudest” voice seems like the truthful voice. I was told “flee from the devil and the devil will flee from you”. Sometimes God’s voice may seem quiet but speaks the truth. That took me a very long time to understand. Thank you for reading my article and I hope you have a great day!
So very true! If you hear those words, RUN!!!!! And also realize that person is actually projecting their own self-hatred unto you. Their words aren’t about you at all, it’s really all about them. Run gurl run!
Oh yes, when facing the devil, turn your back and walk away! Or as you said “Run”! It’s important to decide who and what to focus on. As life goes on, it gets easier to move on, to move forward. Thanks very much for reading my article! PS – you are right about projection.
Sarah I hope you did not learn these truths the hard way. I am afraid I did too. I am free now living my best life. I was also told no one else would ever want me or love me. That may be true, but I will take freedom every day over the control and abuse. I never had the courage to leave and I lived that life in silence. My freedom came when my spouse passed. God bless you as live your best life.
Thank you for sharing your insight and experience! Getting out is not always an option. The gratitude you express for living your best life right now is wonderful to hear. I’ve been told all kinds of things and what my life “is” or “will be”. No one knows for sure what is in store for another but God! I know God loves me. Have a great day and God Bless You, too!